There are only about ten more days in January. So there are only ten more days for us to all get dialed in to ensure that we are set up to self propel ourselves through our 2019 goals. This year, I set really big, hard goals for myself and I am busting my a$$ to achieve them. But as with any goal, there always comes a point when things get hard and it is so easy to revert back to the way things were. I CAN’T GIVE IN. I set those big, hard goals for a reason! I have to stick it out. Here’s how I got through the hard times during weight loss which totally translates to every other goal you could possibly set!
Here is my recipe for Rocket-Fueled Motivation.
- A Clearly defined “why“
- Fully immersed in awesomeness & inspiration
- One incredibly supportive partner
- Unwavering gratefulness
- Well beaten path of just keep going
Define or remember your why.
I found that I sometimes set goals that without really understanding where that desire came from. This made it so hard to rationalize why I should do it when it got hard just a few weeks later. I hadn’t defined my “why”. Your why is the undeniable reason why you cannot NOT do this one thing. It has to be strong enough to bring you out of that place of giving in. Sometimes I have the right why but have not done enough work on it to solidify the outcome in my mind. And let me tell you, all drive and no direction makes might have you wandering the desert of your mind for 40 years!
So how do you strengthen your why? My # 1 go to is visualization. Here is a list of questions to study and answer for each big goal you have. The more senses you can incorporate into this vision, the more real it will feel. It should only take about 5 minutes.
Once you answer some of these the idea is now a concrete goal! One you can feel in your bones. If it’s not, go back and do this until it is.
Here is an example of a well-thought-through vision of my weight loss goal.
When I get my ideal body, I will look at myself in the mirror and think “Damn! I look hot!!!” I will wear tight pants with no fear of a muffin top! I will eat foods that make me feel good and healthy choices will be my default mode. I will be exercising regularly because of how good it makes me feel. I will be able to run 5 miles without stopping. I will chase my kids around and play all the time. My kids will see my habits and will live healthier lives because of it. I will live a thriving, active life until I am a ripe old age of 100! I will be an inspiration to others struggling with this same challenge and help them get through.
Surrounding yourself with awesomeness.
When I am feeling like quitting, even if I tell myself it is only for right now, this one time, I know that this is a make or break moment. On the other side of not giving in is a breakthrough. This has happened so many times and I have seen the light enough times to know that each temptation to quit is a test of “how bad do you want this?”. So, what do I do? Turn on some motivation! You may never want to do the things you dislike, but making yourself do then because it’s necessary is really what motivation is all about.
This one sounds harder than it really is. And some of this is going to require some reframing in your own head to get you out of haterville if that’s where you live. What you do is very simple. Find people succeeding at life and surround yourself with them. If there isn’t anyone in your real life, find some awesome podcasts (Rise podcase, Rise Together, Goal Digger, The GoodLife Project, Super Soul, Tony Robbins, etc) or follow inspiring people on social, or my favorite, get an incredibly empowering book or audiobook (Girl, Wash Your Face, You are a Badass, Crush it, Crushing It, etc.). There is something incredible about motivational and inspirational audiobooks. You can get stuck in your own head and reading it with your own voice is sometimes not enough to pull you through. The author though will read their book they way they would have delivered the keynote speech that saved your life!
Get a partner.
Partners who really understand your goals and actively remove barriers from your life are GAME CHANGERS! I am lucky enough to have the most incredible husband who is constantly checking me when I am trying to weasel out of a goal I set for myself. He problem solves our schedules to make time for me to work out when I am trying to rationalize quitting and takes both kids by himself for hours so I can get some time with my girlfriends and reset, catch up and find my center again!
If you don’t have a spouse that can provide this for you, there are hundreds of thousands of online communities for people who are trying to achieve the same things you are. Find a message board and partner up! I am sure the person on the other end would be happy to have the same support!
I have found what many studies have concluded, being grateful makes your whole life better, healthier, and happier. When I started using a gratitude journal each morning, I found myself being more positive throughout the day. This made me more open to opportunities and less frazzled when things didn’t go according to plan.
Make a habit of looking in the mirror or writing down 5 things you are thankful for when you wake up. Start your day this way every day… not just in the weeks between Halloween and Thanksgiving when you do the thankfulness challenge your cousin tagged you in on Facebook.
Just keep going.
Remember what I said about finding a breakthrough on the other side of temptation. This is where you create the ability to push through temptation and make a habit of not giving in. Do this again and again and again. Don’t give in enough times that you start to recognize when the temptation is happening and you shut it down before it really gets a hold.
I have a 9-month-old baby and it is hard to resist an opportunity to sleep just a little bit longer. Getting up at 5 am every day to make sure I can build this blog and a life far beyond what I ever thought possible is hard. There’s no other way to say it. Especially, when I went to bed at 11:30 pm because I was planning content. That first week was brutal. What I learned though was that the more times I just got out of bed, even just to go pee, the easier it got the next day. Now, I look forward to it because it means I get to get up and write. I also get to revisit my goals in my start today journal and re-visualize the life I am building.
No one has it all figured out. The ones who succeed, are successful because they just kept going… they stuck it out and keep showing up.
I make a point to refuel my goals daily. I just spend a few minutes a day doing the things above and already, just since I started firing on all these cylinders in September, I feel like a different person. I can clearly see the life I want in my head and for anyone that knows me, I can’t help myself to get it done!!!